Ostarè Dubois shared their story and experiences with us recently and you can find our conversation below.
Ostarè, a huge thanks to you for investing the time to share your wisdom with those who are seeking it. We think it’s so important for us to share stories with our neighbors, friends and community because knowledge multiples when we share with each other. Let’s jump in: What’s more important to you—intelligence, energy, or integrity?
If I had to choose between intelligence, energy, and integrity, I would choose integrity—every time.
Intelligence can be developed, and energy can be renewed. But integrity is the foundation that makes both of those qualities meaningful. Without it, everything eventually falls apart.
When I speak about integrity, I don’t just mean moral correctness. I mean being in alignment with our word—and having the courage to communicate when we can’t keep it. This simple act changes relationships, deepens trust, and creates clarity.
In my work as a life coach, especially in inner-child healing, I see how many adults struggle with integrity not because they’re irresponsible, but because they were raised in environments where promises were broken and communication didn’t feel safe. Those early wounds often shape how we show up in adulthood—at work, in relationships, in marriage, everywhere.
That’s why integrity matters most.
It’s not about perfection.
It’s about presence, ownership, and emotional maturity.
When someone strengthens their integrity, their intelligence has direction, and their energy finally has purpose.
And that’s where real transformation begins.
Can you briefly introduce yourself and share what makes you or your brand unique?
Ostarè is an American singer, songwriter, performer, transformational coach, and author born in France—an artist whose work unites spirit, soul, and body into a holistic experience of growth and rebirth. Known for her chart-topping singles “God Loves a Woman” and “Show Em What You Got,” she inspires women and children worldwide to rise from emotional pain into confidence, alignment, and purpose. Her global reach includes features in Vogue and Elle, international radio charts, and performances from Hollywood and Las Vegas to Carnegie Hall.
What makes Ostarè truly unique is her integrative approach to transformation. After her own journey through trauma and spiritual reconnection, she discovered the profound truth that healing becomes inevitable when spirit, soul, and body are aligned. Grounded in the biblical understanding that we are children of the Most High, she guides clients to reconnect with the inner power already placed within them. Her role is not to be the healer, but the transformational coach who helps others awaken their own ability to heal themselves.
A certified life coach educated by world-renowned personal development organizations, a seven-year volunteer coach for Landmark Worldwide, and a Grammy advocate for the LA Chapter, Ostarè blends emotional intelligence, spiritual insight, and artistic expression into a deeply impactful practice. Her journey includes mentorship and influence from iconic figures such as Mickey Stevenson of Motown, Herbie Hancock, Wayne Shorter, and acclaimed creatives connected with the Jacksons. She has also shared powerful moments with leaders like Tony Robbins, who once brought her on stage to lead thousands in movement at a Los Angeles event.
Looking ahead, Ostarè is currently writing a book that explores the nature of miracles—how they emerge, how to recognize them, and how to align oneself so they become a natural part of life.
Through her music, coaching, and upcoming authorship, Ostarè continues to be a catalyst for inner transformation—helping individuals reconnect, realign, and rise into the fullness of who they were created to be.
Appreciate your sharing that. Let’s talk about your life, growing up and some of topics and learnings around that. What did you believe about yourself as a child that you no longer believe?
As a child, I believed I didn’t matter—that no matter how smart, beautiful, or “good” I tried to be, I still wasn’t wanted. That belief became the engine that pushed me toward perfectionism. I learned to silence my own needs, take care of everyone else, and chase belonging at any cost.
That pattern followed me into Hollywood. In the entertainment industry, I abandoned my true voice to fit in, even embracing practices that weren’t aligned with my faith or identity. Ironically, I became successful—my pop music went viral, I charted internationally, and yet I felt completely empty. I had achieved everything I thought I needed to feel loved, but internally, I was miserable.
Then life stopped me.
A drunk-driving accident left me between life and death. I survived injuries doctors couldn’t explain. In that moment, I realized God had spared me for a reason. That experience brought me home—to Jesus, to my truth, and to the part of myself I had abandoned as a child.
From there, I focused on healing spirit first, then soul, then body.
And what I discovered felt like discovering gold.
I no longer believe the lie that I don’t matter.
I now know I am deeply loved by God—unconditionally, permanently, and without performing for it. And once I became aligned with that truth, everything changed. My destiny changed. My purpose became clear. When you are loved—not just saying it or trying to feel it, but being it—nothing and no one can stand against you.
Through this transformation, I discovered the gifts God placed in me all along:
guiding people to heal emotionally and spiritually
helping couples restore connection
helping families become financially free
mentoring children or adults and helping them discover their gifts
writing music and books that awaken the inner child and reconnect people with God
I’m not the healer—God is.
I’m simply the transformational coach who guides people back to the healing that already lives inside them.
Today, I know why my life isn’t conventional because my calling isn’t. I’ve overcome major health battles, transformed my own life through alignment and discipline, and I use every gift God gave me to serve His children. My mission is to help people stop looking for love outside themselves and rediscover the love that’s already been theirs from the very beginning.
That is the belief I live from now:
I matter. I am loved. And I am here to help others remember that they are too.
What did suffering teach you that success never could?
Suffering taught me what success never could: who I really am, what truly matters, and how God rebuilds us when everything else falls away.
During my health battles, there were moments I lost all of my hair—over and over again. I faced extreme blood loss, neurological challenges, and long stretches where I could barely get out of bed. When the brain doesn’t function, you lose not just strength, but clarity, dignity, and even identity. It was one of the darkest and most humbling seasons of my life.
And in that darkness, something was revealed:
the success, fame, money, and image I had built were a mask—one my unhealed inner child was hiding behind. On the outside, I looked strong. Inside, I was vulnerable, and people with unhealthy intentions saw it. When I became too weak to protect myself or make decisions, the “sharks,” as I call them, circled. They wanted to take, even while I was on what felt like my deathbed.
That pain broke me open.
In tears, I prayed:
“God, if You are real, show Yourself to me through people—not by their church attendance, but by their kindness, compassion, and love.”
Shortly after that prayer, everything collapsed—my health, my finances, my career. It looked like destruction, but it was actually God’s reconstruction. My calling became louder than my fear. And God began placing extraordinary people in my life—people who embodied the kindness I prayed for.
One of the greatest blessings was being embraced by Travis Cottrell and his wife Angela. Through them, I was introduced to an entirely new world—Christian music—and to artists whose faith, humility, and compassion changed me. They brought me into spaces I never imagined, including performing at Carnegie Hall with legends like Michael W. Smith.
What touched me most wasn’t the stage—it was the love.
I was still unwell, emotionally and physically. The touring company placed me in a hotel to rest because brain injuries are complex. No judgment. No pressure. Only care.
There were days I had uncontrollable crying spells, and moments when simple tasks felt impossible. Instead of turning away, Travis surrounded me with singers who became friends, anchors, and reminders that God had placed me in the right family. Their kindness became my first miracle. Their love began healing parts of me no doctor had ever touched.
Suffering taught me that kindness is medicine. Love is medicine. Compassion is medicine.
Things the world rarely prescribes but every soul desperately needs.
So yes—my suffering was the worst experience of my life, and the best thing that could have ever happened for my future. God used it to strip away everything false and rebuild everything true. I learned that when we cannot walk, God carries us. And when we cannot see, He sends people who can see for us.
Today, I understand something profound:
the mission God entrusts you with determines the level of endurance He cultivates in you.
And every moment of suffering was preparing me for the work I do now—guiding others to heal themselves, reconnect with God, and rise into the fullness of who they were always meant to be.
Alright, so if you are open to it, let’s explore some philosophical questions that touch on your values and worldview. Whom do you admire for their character, not their power?
While I admire many people, the person I admire most for their character—not their power—is Jesus Christ. His life on earth showed us what it means to walk with courage, compassion, integrity, and unconditional love. He took on human limitations to teach us what we, as children of God, are capable of when we live in alignment with truth.
For a long time, I misused the free will God gave me. I thought I could navigate life on my own terms, without His guidance. And for a while, it looked like everything was working—success, fame, momentum. But spiritually, I was blind. I didn’t realize how the words I spoke and the music I created were shaping my destiny and affecting others. Eventually, life gave me a brutal awakening, and in that breaking, I found my way back to what’s real.
Today, I admire Jesus not for His miracles, but for His character: His humility, His wisdom, His patience, His ability to love even when rejected. And I admire anyone—everyday people—who strive to live with that same heart. People who work on themselves, who choose kindness, who walk with integrity, who love others even when it’s hard. Those are the people who inspire me.
At the end of our lives, we don’t take possessions with us—we take memories, lessons, and the impact we had on others. I’ve faced that reality more than once, and it changed me. So yes, I admire Jesus first. And I admire every person who chooses to grow, love, and serve with a pure heart. That, to me, is true character.
Okay, so before we go, let’s tackle one more area. What is the story you hope people tell about you when you’re gone?
The story I hope people tell about me when I’m gone is that I used my second chance at life to make their lives better. Remember me for my spirituality as a relationship with the most high.
I was told by doctors that I had only a few years to live. I survived injuries that left me between life and death. There were moments when my oxygen was low, my hemoglobin was almost nonexistent, and yet somehow I was still walking, smiling, and moving when the hospital expected me to be unable to stand. They had to pin me to a wheelchair before transfusions because my body defied what the medical world said was possible.
That experience taught me one thing with absolute clarity:
God is the one in control.
If it’s not our time, it’s not our time.
In that moment, I made a promise to God:
If He let me stay, I would live a life that reflects my values, my character, and the purpose He put in me. And He gave me that chance.
So the story I want people to tell is simple:
That I led people back to Jesus—the only way to the Father—because I learned the truth the hard way.
That I used every gift God gave me—my music, my writing, my inner-child work, my coaching—to help people transform their lives and reconnect with their purpose.
That I helped them avoid the years I wasted being disconnected from God and from who I was created to be.
I want people to say that I taught them how to restore the trinity within—spirit, soul, and body—so they could experience their own miracles.
Miracles over illness.
Miracles in marriages.
Miracles in mental peace, emotional restoration, parenting, identity, purpose, and success.
I want them to say that I fought for them.
That I believed in their healing even when they didn’t.
That I showed them how to rise above their circumstances—not by their own strength, but by the Holy Spirit, by the breath of God within them.
That’s why my song “Rise With the Wind” means so much to me. It’s the story of moving from pain to light, from fear to faith, from brokenness to rebirth. It’s the story I want others to live long after I’m gone.
If people remember me as someone who helped them rise—body, soul, and spirit—then I lived my mission well.
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Arese Photography
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