We recently had the chance to connect with Kala Simmons and have shared our conversation below.
Good morning Kala, it’s such a great way to kick off the day – I think our readers will love hearing your stories, experiences and about how you think about life and work. Let’s jump right in? What is something outside of work that is bringing you joy lately?
Outside of work, I’ve been finding a lot of joy in learning Spanish. I recently passed day 100, and while it’s definitely been challenging, it’s also been incredibly refreshing to stretch myself in a new way. I’ve especially loved being able to connect more meaningfully with friends and coworkers who are native speakers, and I’m excited about how this will allow me to better serve and support even more people as I continue to grow.
Can you briefly introduce yourself and share what makes you or your brand unique?
I’m Kala Simmons, a confidence and authenticity coach who helps women step fully into life as the Main Character, by building confidence, presence, and self-trust so they can navigate every transition with clarity and purpose. With over 16 years of experience in mental health and social services, I’ve guided thousands of women through growth, healing, and real-life change. My work blends clinical insight with intuitive, personalized coaching, allowing me to meet each woman exactly where she is without judgment, pressure, or performative positivity. This work is both my calling and my responsibility, and my mission is simple: helping women reclaim their confidence and live as their most authentic selves.
Currently, I’m focused on deep, transformational 1:1 client work through offerings like The Main Character Intensive and M.I.C. Mentorship, where I walk hand in hand with women as they elevate their Mindset, Identity, and Confidence, not just to change their lives, but to live them on purpose with purpose.
Okay, so here’s a deep one: What did you believe about yourself as a child that you no longer believe?
As a child, I believed I had to be perfect to be worthy, loved, accepted, or successful. That belief showed up as people-pleasing, shrinking myself to avoid disappointing others, and playing it safe out of fear of failure. Over time, through failures, comebacks, deep healing, and a lot of learning, I’ve unlearned that narrative. I now understand that the very quirks and imperfections we try to hide are often what make us most genuine and relatable. Success isn’t built on perfection; it’s built on courage, growth, and showing up anyway. If you’re not making a few mistakes along the way… you’re probably not reaching far enough.
When did you stop hiding your pain and start using it as power?
I’ve always called myself the Queen of Fresh Starts. I may be afraid of many things, but I’ve never been afraid of rebuilding. And while I’ve started over more times than I can count, the moment I truly transformed my pain into power came during the height of the COVID-19 pandemic. The world was heavy. People were isolated, scared, and grieving in real time. I’ve always had a gift for connecting deeply and speaking life into others, and one day I decided to stop keeping that to myself. I hit record and began sharing my story, my coping skills, and the habits that were helping me stay grounded amid the uncertainty. That willingness to be visible, to say “I see you,” “you’re not alone,” and “I’ve been there” became the seed of my coaching business. What started as shared survival turned into purpose-driven work, helping women shift their mindsets, reclaim their identity, and rise with intention.
So a lot of these questions go deep, but if you are open to it, we’ve got a few more questions that we’d love to get your take on. What’s a belief you used to hold tightly but now think was naive or wrong?
I used to believe that growth required cutting off anyone who didn’t immediately understand or support your transformation, even when it was painful. Over time, I’ve learned that belief was a bit naive. While growth does require leaving behind certain people, places, and habits, not every relationship is meant to be severed. Some simply require a shift in perspective. People play different roles in our lives: family, best friends, our core tribe, friends, associates, and strangers. Sometimes growth isn’t about alienation; it’s about re-categorization. And that process doesn’t always need a dramatic conversation or emotional upheaval. It can be quiet, intentional, and still incredibly healthy.
Okay, we’ve made it essentially to the end. One last question before you go. What is the story you hope people tell about you when you’re gone?
When it’s my time to leave this realm, I hope my story is remembered as one rooted in joy, compassion, and grit. I hope people revisit my words, my videos, or our time together and still feel empowered to show up as their most authentic selves. I want to be remembered for living life out loud for refusing to settle, for choosing alignment, and for doing everything on purpose and with purpose.
I take deep pride in being someone who made others feel like “That Girl.” And more than anything, I hope they remember that because I lived as the Main Character, they felt permission and power to become the main character of their own story.
Contact Info:
- Website: https://www.kalasimmons.com/
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heycoachk
- Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/heycoachk
- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/heycoachk
- Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@HeyCoachK1
- Other: Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@heycoachk1
Image Credits
Photo creds: L.J. Russell & Ava Conner
