We recently had the chance to connect with Tami Daylami and have shared our conversation below.
Hi Tami, thank you so much for joining us today. We’re thrilled to learn more about your journey, values and what you are currently working on. Let’s start with an ice breaker: What do you think others are secretly struggling with—but never say?
I think a lot of people are struggling with finding themselves. Truly getting to know themselves on a deep level. Knowing what they like and why? Digging deeper on the why. I think we tend to “learn” some things about ourselves, never really question why and carry that around our whole life. Like, “I’m just a hopeless romantic” (I dislike that term). And they never question why and what that means. Are you searching for love that you think is missing? Are you lacking love? Are you not giving yourself enough love? Have you not learned your true values in life? So many things! And I think all these answers help you really get to know yourself. And that makes you stronger, more loving, more compassionate, more calm, more confident.
I think the work I do actually start to tap into some of those deeper questions, only because I ask my clients lots of questions about themselves and their lives to get to know them. And just the time we spend, 1:1 is time they are spending thinking about themselves, reflecting. A lot of people don’t ever take time to do that.
Can you briefly introduce yourself and share what makes you or your brand unique?
Hi! I’m Tami Sofia and I’m a Personal Stylist. I work with clients 1:1. I clean out closets, I work on your styles, silhouettes, colors. I shop for you. I help you build confidence, clarity and joy around yourself, your appearance and your overall energy.
Each clients process looks a little different and I like it that way. Because no 2 people are really the same, so why would I treat them that way.
I do a lot of second hand and vintage shopping. I love reducing waste. If you know anything about the fashion industry, you know it’s #2 in the world for waste.
So when I clean out a closet I make sure the clothes goes to use, somewhere else. I love shopping for my clients from thrift stores or online platforms that sell second-hand clothes.
It takes more time, but I truly feel I’m building longer lasting wardrobes for my clients.
Amazing, so let’s take a moment to go back in time. What relationship most shaped how you see yourself?
My sister. I have one sister. She’s 4 1/2 years older. And she has always been my #1.
My biggest teacher, my biggest support system, my shoulder to lean on. She’s always given me space to make my own mistakes. Never judging me. But always being there for me. Always reflecting back the truth, not what she thinks I want to hear. Never letting me think I don’t have choices, even when the choices suck.
Always reminding me every situation is a lesson. Reminding me that life is short, and painful and beautiful and that there is only love. Because there really is only love.
She’s given me confidence when I didn’t think I had any. She showed me paths when I thought the roads where all closed. She’s helped me back up when I simply didn’t think I could get back up. She’s shown me how strong and resilient I really am.
What did suffering teach you that success never could?
Suffering taught me how strong I am.
Suffering taught me to stop caring what others think.
Suffering taught me to start even when I know I’m going to be bad at it. But the only way to get better is to start.
Suffering taught me that nobody is coming to save me.
That whole bigger plan needs ME. I am one of one and if I want to make this happen, it has to come from me.
Nobody else can do it for me, because nobody else is me.
So a lot of these questions go deep, but if you are open to it, we’ve got a few more questions that we’d love to get your take on. Is the public version of you the real you?
For the most part, I would say yes. I’m pretty silly most of the time. Have an overall joyful demeanor. I am serious about my work, but I’m still having fun with it.
I seldom wear make up. I dress like a boy. I have other sides to me and you see that too. But you see the real me.
I love cars, nature, fashion, animals, MMA, music, art, architecture, and love. I love love. I think you will see all these things on my social media.
There are some things I keep private. I’m not hiding them necessarily. It’s just things that I don’t really want to hear other opinions on. That might change.
I don’t share a lot about politics or religion because I think people use them as things to divide us and I just feel very differently. I think most of my close friends are surprised with my stances some times. But they also know I don’t judge them. We have different view points and that’s okay with me.
I love discussion, but dislike arguing.
I am and ethical vegan. I don’t associate with any religion but live my life centered around God. I don’t associate with any political party. I think both are corrupt. I believe in less government little to no taxes. I believe in core family values. I believe a lot of traditions that are considered “Old school” that I think would make our society happier. But here we are.
I am very confident in who I am and what I believe. Nobody can sway that. AND I think everyone has the right to live their life as they please. As long as they are not inflicting harm on others.
Thank you so much for all of your openness so far. Maybe we can close with a future oriented question. If you laid down your name, role, and possessions—what would remain?
My Heart. I think anyone who knows me would say the same. My heart is big. I love deep.
Even people that I no longer talk to, ex boyfriends, etc. If they’re honest, they’d say the same.
My heart is big. The only time my heart looks like it’s closed to someone is when they do me wrong. And even then, my heart isn’t close to them. Just their access to me.
I don’t think a lot of people get that.
I still love you. I still care about you. But you can’t have access to me anymore. Because I also love me. And I know that you can’t love me back or you’re actually hurting me. So I have to cut ties. But the love never goes away.
Contact Info:
- Website: https://www.tamisofia.com
- Instagram: @tami_Sofia
- Linkedin: Tami Sofia Designs
- Facebook: Tami Sofia Designs
- Youtube: @TamiSofiaDesigns
Image Credits
@thealixrae on Instagram took all those photos
