Conversations with Alisa FitzPatrick

Today we’d like to introduce you to Alisa FitzPatrick. 

Hi Alisa, it’s an honor to have you on the platform. Thanks for taking the time to share your story with us – to start maybe you can share some of your backstories with our readers?
I was born & raised in Spring, TX, about an hour north of Houston. Growing up I was bullied. My parents didn’t have lots of money, so I wasn’t one of the popular kids. I also had a learning disability which made school a challenge. In 1994, while working at a grocery store, I met the man that would eventually become my husband. We have 3 wonderful children. We have moved 12 times in our 26 years of marriage. Through all of the moves, I have learned to take life in stride and work at building friendships while carrying the weight of my childhood. I really didn’t understand how it was taking a toll on my body. In 2018, I really took a deep dive into a total body healing. Little did I know it would take me on a wild journey to say the least. During this time, I have grown a deep passion for women & their struggles. As women, we wear so many hats/masks. The hats are the tasks we need to accomplish. The masks are what we hide behind losing our identity. I spent years trying to complete the tasks I needed to accomplish: raising 3 children, keeping up with the house, working mostly part=time while our children were younger. and full-time as they got older. I had hidden behind our kids making sure that all of their needs were met, all the while losing who I was. I was known as one of our kids’ mom. I would never change a minute of raising our children, however, I was still left with the unresolved trauma of my childhood. As women, we get really good at “burying” our hurts never speaking about them. We certainly wouldn’t want to talk about our problems to anyone. We feel shamed like we will never measure up. We believe that no one will understand or has ever gone through something like we have. Our past is way too messy. I spent years trying to convince myself that everything was fine. My childhood trauma haunted me. The pain & hurt were more than I could bear. Once I began my health journey, I discovered that I didn’t have to live that way and neither does any other woman for that matter. I am working on creating a space for women to share their journey with others to find like-minded people who have gone through similar trials. My heart is to create a safe space for women to share in our journeys together, encouraging one another, supporting each other through life without judgment or shame. 

I’m sure you wouldn’t say it’s been obstacle-free, but so far would you say the journey has been a fairly smooth road?
I have been faced with many struggles along the way. Many of which I have kept to myself. No one wants to talk about having anxiety or depression. Most of my depression is usually situational. I was taught when things get tough, pull up your bootstraps & keep going. One of my biggest battles has been a consistent daily headaches. I have gone to doctors that will prescribe medication that doesn’t work. I have had countless tests. None of which have given a solid answer to my headaches. I have done lots of alternative remedies. I have changed my diet, I go to the chiropractor, get massages, acupuncture, use essential oils, done a complete body detox that took a year and I use an infrared blanket. All of these have inched me closer to relief, but not completely. I attended a weekend retreat & began life coaching. There I learned some tips for dealing with my past trauma. 

I have journaled and still do. I have learned some deep breathing techniques to use when my anxiety kicks in. I have written letters to people that I need to release my emotions and feelings towards. I will be completely honest and say that letter writing was probably the most difficult. I had to give myself grace to have the painful feelings, but also not be willing to stay in those feelings too long. I had to gently remind myself that I had lived there long enough, and I needed to let go. I also had to learn that it is ok to not be busy all the time. It is okay to read, take a walk, take a longer than usual shower, watch a movie or just be in the present moment. 

As you know, we’re big fans of you and your work. For our readers who might not be as familiar what can you tell them about what you do?
I love helping my clients build a future through real estate. I specialize in first-time homebuyer and veterans. I build a relationship with my clients which allows me to understand their true goals. Sometimes it takes out-of-the-box thinking to achieve their goals. Helping clients to see that there are options allows them the ability to make choices that best fit their needs. 

You may be wondering where does this fit into my past. Real estate also allows me the opportunity to meet women and begin to build a relationship. I am able to learn some of their struggles. This opens the door for me to share some of my past experiences and mentor to them. 

My true heart’s desire to provide a space for women to share their struggles. Allow them the opportunity to release their past and encourage someone else. In doing this, I will create a community where women can have a breakthrough they desire without judgment or shame. I am in the process of starting a private Facebook group page called “Ladies without Shame.” My long-term goal is to have a physical location for women to meet, have discussion time and build friendships. 

What makes you happy?
I enjoy spending time with my husband, Troy & our children. Troy and I love to travel and hike in the mountains. To me, nature is a place of healing and freedom. I love the cold weather, especially during the holidays. 

I also really enjoy spending time with people building relationships & getting to know their struggles. Because we have moved so much, I can usually find a common ground to start a conversation. The conversations can lead us sharing our past. 

Contact Info:

• Email: fitzpatrick.alisam@gmail.com
• Website: https://alisafitzpatrick.kw.com/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alisa.fitzpatrick/?hl=en
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/alisa.r.fitzpatrick/